Friday, August 2, 2013

Women Who Threw a Temper Tantrum

Have you ever been so mad that you just want to scream? 

Recently a viral video of the women who throws a temper tantrum was posted on YouTube. In the video you can see that the women had a melt down towards her husband when he would not take her to the lake.

When you watch the video you will see that there is a greater issue than just going to the lake. How many of us have a lack of communication in our marriages and let the little things pile on and on without getting to the root of the problem? According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention the rate is at 6.8 per 1,000 marriages in the U.S. end up in divorce simply because of the lack of communication in a marriage.

So how can spouses have a better marriage and communicate better? Here are 3 tips that I have found that have worked for my marriage.

1. Listen to your spouse.
My husband is usually  the one that follows though on this one. Both spouses should try to see what the root of the problem really is and listen to the other one.

2. No Name Calling.
Calling your spouse an "idiot" even if they have done something stupid is never okay. Try to refrain from using a statement like that. You may feel that way in the heat of the moment but afterward the feeling will dissipate. This rule of no name calling should also extends to social media sites as well.

3.  Look for a solution together.
 That means that there should be a comprise from both spouses. It does not matter who is right or who is wrong. Don't keep score and try to find a solution to the problem together.

I also like what Dr. Phil says about fighting fair with your spouse. His advice would have really help the couple in the temper tantrum video. He mentions that couples should be allowed to retreat with dignity.
"How an argument ends is crucial. Recognize when an olive branch is being extended to you — perhaps in the form of an apology or a joke — and give your partner a face-saving way out of the disagreement."
This was obviously not the case when the husband decided to video tape his now ex-wife secretly. I know that these tips are easier to write about than to apply but you can do it if you make an effort to do so.

Do you have any tips for a successful marriage? Let me know in the comments below.

1 comment:

Charnelle said...

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